Friday, February 6, 2009

Breaking Upwards




This movie looks like it might hit a little too close to home in ways (emotionally and geographically... and, um, tight-pants-ically). It's always fun, though, to watch movies set in a familiar place and pick out spots you frequent. What's maybe most promising here is that the film appears to co-opt many of the quickly-getting-old "mumblecore" tropes into a more, umm, crafted aesthetic...

Plus, it deals with our "Monogamy-centrist culture"...

Synopsis:
Breaking Upwards follows a young New York couple who, after four years together, have grown stifled. Desperate to escape their ennui, but fearful of life apart, they decide to intricately strategize their own break up.The film blurs the line between documentary and narrative by casting real life couple (and filmmakers) Daryl Wein and Zoe Lister-Jones as themselves. An uncensored look at young love, lust, and the pangs of codependency, Breaking Upwards follows its characters as they navigate each others' emotions across the city they love. It begs the question: is it ever possible to grow apart together?

Time to play "Name That New York City Spot"...





1 comment:

pak said...

Connections that endure thru time and allow each person the security of knowing that their partner accepts who they are in totality is what creates health in every respect. To doubt that there is someone "out there" who supports us moving thru a constantly changing life is just plain sad. We are lucky when there is a constant force nurturing us from birth on in the form of family. A monogamous relationship is what we create to allow us the same benefit. How can the term codependency be negative in this regard when as social beings we thrive when our social network is predictable, supportive and CONSTANT? Monogamy satisfies our need to thrive. The "pangs of codependency" are small pangs compared to the pangs we have when we are without someone who cares enough to stay. Staying is the greatest gift to get and give. It is sought for good reason. I agree that monogamy can mutate into something destructive for society at large and the individual but that speaks to the responsibility we have to accept that our partner's needs and our own should remain in balance. Our investment in a monogomous relationship leads to an expectation of return. When the balance is off the byproduct is possessivness, jealously and mistrust. Well worth the work!